Marriage, Couples, & Individual Counselling in Nanaimo
John Taylor, MA, RCC 20+ years of experience
In person in Nanaimo and by video across British Columbia.
When patterns repeat, when what you’re doing stops working, this is where change truly begins.
I work with people who are stuck in these cycles and want to understand why.
My goal is not just to help you feel better in the session, but to change things at the root. This requires working with both symptoms and what creates them.
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Relationship Counselling
Stop having the same argument. Resolve conflict, work through stuck problems, and rebuild trust. I work with couples dealing with disconnection, communication breakdown, and recurring patterns.
Betrayal and affair recovery: stabilizing after discovery and working through the impact.
Using approaches such as Gottman Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy, I help shift how you meet each other within the relationship, with a focus on changing the patterns between partners so you can find your way back to each other.
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Individual Therapy
Confusion, anxiety, and loss of direction follow patterns that have their own internal logic.
As these patterns become clearer, the pressure to cope lifts and different responses becomes possible.
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Psychotherapy & Change
If you find the same problems keep appearing in your life, chances are there are patterns below the surface. Once identified and addressed, stuck patterns transform into understanding, better communication, and life satisfaction. In psychotherapy I help with the symptoms (depression, anxiety, relationship conflict) as well as the underlying issues, so that changes are long-term.
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Counselling is an Active Process
Counselling is more than just listening with empathy, it is an active process of formation & transformation. Most clients experience significant change after just a few sessions.
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