Jul 5, 2013 | Relationships, Marriage, Couple Counselling
“Listening is not batting practice, where you hit back everything that comes your way.” –John Gottman Have you ever been asked a question and felt the other person wanted a specific answer (theirs)? How you ask questions conveys much more information than just the...
May 31, 2013 | Relationships, Marriage, Couple Counselling
“Musick has Charms to sooth a savage Breast.” –William Congreve In Canada during the late 80s, a brief health-oriented commercial break was broadcast during regular television programming. In the “Body-Break, ParticipACTION” clips, a male-female team...
May 16, 2013 | Relationships, Marriage, Couple Counselling
“People can only change when they feel liked and accepted as they are.” –John Gottman Have you ever tried to make-up with your partner after an argument or wrong word only to find things getting worse, both of you becoming even more frustrated or shut-down? Making up,...
May 2, 2013 | Relationships, Marriage, Couple Counselling
Do you and your spouse have an issue you cannot work out no matter how hard you try? You have likely experienced “emotional gridlock.” Signs of gridlock include feeling like you are talking to a brick wall, feeling you are never heard, and even feeling your marriage...
Oct 17, 2012 | Relationships, Marriage, Couple Counselling
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” the old saying goes. The idea is that physical distance from a loved one makes his or her attributes appear greater than they really are, and thus more desirable. A temporary separation can indeed make the...
Oct 12, 2012 | Relationships, Marriage, Couple Counselling
For whatever we lose (like a you or a me) it’s always ourselves we find in the sea. —e.e. cummings I spent most of the first weekend in October at Transfer Beach in Ladysmith, BC. The weather was brilliant; sunny and warm with no hint of a wind, leaves...