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“Thanksgiving” for Couples: The Importance of Creating Healthy Relationship Habits by saying “Thank you”
Many families celebrate holidays like Thanksgiving with family gatherings, special foods (and turkey leftovers), vacations, or visiting a special place. Reliable, healthy patterns add structure and comfort to life. Such customs provide touchstones for...
A Little Kindness Goes a Long Way; A Lot Can Save Your Marriage: How Kindness Creates Healthy, Happy Relationships
Kindness is in our power, even when fondness is not. –Mark Twain I'm often asked what the key to a happy marriage is. There are many factors that make a relationship great, but the common denominator in all long-lasting and happy relationships is kindness. An...
Do Less, Be More: How Pausing before Doing Can Change Negative Habits
“Life is not an emergency” –Richard Brennan Have you considered how you would like to do things differently this year in your personal life, career, or physical health? Goals might include communicating better with your partner, yelling less at your kids,...
The Importance of Not Being Prepared: How Negative Rehearsal Damages Relationships
Have you ever walked into your home and immediately noticed that your partner didn’t take out the trash, back the car up the right way, or do some other thing you feel they should have done? If so, it is likely you have been rehearsing negative scripts—inner...
How We Undermine Our Relationships: Assumptions and How To Avoid Them
"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." –Henry Winkler Adding on Facebook, texting members of the opposite sex (in a heterosexual relationship), openly flirting at a party, sending explicit sexual emails and photos, having an emotional or sexual...